Comments for Trying To Thrive

Comment on Giving Away Free Mistakes! by Vanessa Elise

Vanessa Elise — Tue, 06 Oct 2020 01:24:48 +0000

I will just say. Thank you.

Comment on Neurodivergent Dating in Polyamory by Ariel Jean

Ariel Jean — Tue, 01 Sep 2020 21:54:12 +0000

I’ve been wondering if I’m autistic for some time, and then I read your line about you noticing more neurodivergent people in the poly community and I can’t help but notice the same. The pattern I was connecting though was transness, since basically everyone I date is somewhere on the transgender spectrum and it has been noted that there’s an overlap with trans identity and autism. Now I have yet another little circle to add to my venn diagram. So far I’ve been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and borderline personality disorder (well.. diagnosed is a strong word. Technically I said “hey I think I have BPD and this is why and I think I could benefit from this medication and my doctor was like “okay” and here I am, all the better for it). Anyway, thanks for helping connect dots and I look forward to reading more from you!

Comment on Neurodivergent Dating in Polyamory by thewanderingempath

thewanderingempath — Thu, 13 Aug 2020 22:29:24 +0000

This is really insightful and informative. If you are a reader, you may want to check out The Rosie Project. I think you describe the protagonist of that little hero’s journey perfectly! It must be really tough to navigate the world this way. My son is autistic and he struggles with many of the things you talk about here, but he is little, so I think he has some time before the other things become issues. Either way, it is a really fascinating way to see the world.

Comment on Gatekeeping in Polyamory by Bethany Decossas

Bethany Decossas — Fri, 01 May 2020 18:54:06 +0000

I like reading your blog! I think it is very interesting, informative, and funny. I really appreciate how open you are to owning up to “mistakes” (for lack of a better word) and sharing your growth process along the way. I say keep it up. 🙂

Comment on Thanks Polyamory! It Has Been Fun! by chelle0518

chelle0518 — Sat, 11 Apr 2020 21:19:11 +0000

On point as usual! Lots of tangents for me to explore further. Thank you for stimulating my brain!

Comment on No, She Doesn’t Want to See Your Dick by Lina

Lina — Wed, 01 Apr 2020 03:45:14 +0000

Thank you for taking the time to try and understand what women face in the dating world and sharing your experience. Hopefully lots more people see it and we get a bit of a change.

Comment on The Confusing World of Hierarchy by Hawker

Hawker — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 15:12:11 +0000

I always liked Tikva’s spin on Hierarchy of “Prescriptive” vs “Descriptive” Hierarchy. One is toxic, the other is not.

Prescriptive Hierarchy says “you are my primary therefore the following is the way it is”. It forces people in boxes and to behave certain ways and puts restrictions on our other relationships because they must fit into a certain box. It is the stuff that gets the poly community all up in arm.

Descriptive Hierarchy is just a statement or description of the current state of things. It doesn’t project any meaning, rules or order it just says how things are at the moment, not that they may not change at any moment as things develop and grow. This person is my primary and as such we do xyz but I have no attachment to it and know that it is likely to change as our other relationships change.

Comment on An Open Letter to Those Who Feel Attacked in Polyamory by cher652

cher652 — Wed, 19 Feb 2020 15:44:22 +0000

Very well written. I’m proud to call you my partner!