This one is just for fun. Everyone’s journey is different but surely you can relate to one of these stages.
Stage 1 – OH SNAP! This is a thing?!?!?!?!
You just learned that this is a thing that lots of people do. You are beside yourself. You immediately start to envision a future where your desire to deeply connect with more than one person at a time isn’t that strange.
You consume all of the knowledge you can.
Stage 2 – Putting Yourself Out There
You’ve consumed enough information to get started on your journey. You’ve created your dating profiles and have stepped into the world of non-monogamy. You quickly realize this isn’t going to be as easy at seems. You wonder how in the world polyamorous people meet each other. You start to give up hope on making a polyamorous connection.
You start to feel like a heathen outsider.
Stage 3 – The Buffet Is Open
You quickly went from giving up hope to wondering how you’re going to find the energy to balance all these new connections and relationships. You don’t really know what happened. You’re polyam, I’m polyam, we’re attracted to one another, lets date!
This is the stage where you also learn that love might be infinite, but energy is not.
Stage 4 – Who am I?
You’ve never been better at managing a calendar. Your communication is improving significantly. You’re getting so much feedback that you’re humbled but also proud of your growth.
Stage 5 – Slowing Your Roll
You have some time under your belt now. You’ve had a relationship or two (or 10) and you’ve learned more about yourself since you started your poly journey than you have most of your adult life. It’s time to slow your roll and be more considerate about the people you choose to let into your life. It’s no longer something that consumes your thoughts on a regularly basis.
You don’t care as much about what the monogamous people think of you.
