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The Complexities Of Compatibility In Communication
Have you ever felt like you’re an excellent communicator in some situations and complete garbage in others? I started to wonder how I could feel extremely adept at communicating in some of my relationships but then feel utterly inept in others. How come all the work I’ve done on setting boundaries, communicating expectations and sharing […]
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Why Are You Staying In That Relationship?
If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have because you had already invested X amount of time into it, please raise your hand. I did. I know many of you did. But why????? Well, we might have found ourselves stuck in the: Sunk Cost Fallacy Before I dive into the Sunk […]
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Ok, But What Even Is A Partner?
“Yes, hi. Excuse me. How many partners do you have?” Wait. What do you mean by partners? Work partners, business partners, class project partners, dance partners, life partners, etc. There’s many kinds of partners! Partner only has 2 definitions in the dictionary: noun either of a pair of people engaged together in the same activity.“arrange […]
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The Pros and Cons of Polyamory – Version 1
Version 1 of some Polyamory Pros and Cons. Thanks to my friends who helped contribute to this. Everyone has a unique experience with polyamory so opinions on something like this will vary. Feel free to share anything you think is definitely missing! Click here for text version of list.
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Giving Away Free Mistakes!
Since starting on my polyamorous journey I’ve made mistakes. I’ve hurt people. I’ve surely been viewed as toxic by some people. I struggle to always find the perfect balance and I still don’t get it right every time. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I’m human. I think that’s an important thing we need […]
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Neurodivergent Dating in Polyamory
Patterns are totally my thing. I’m really good at recognizing patterns. In fact, I taught myself to play piano at a young age. Not because I’m musically inclined but because the piano keys are a beautiful pattern of black and white that make pretty sounds. I liked matching the patterns up with the pictures on […]
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Rules Vs. Agreements – Part I
Welcome to Rules Vs Agreement Series Part I! I hope to hear from my friends and other polyam folks who have good examples for future parts to this series. Feel free to send them my way! Rules come up a lot in my posts. If you’ve read any of my posts that reference rules you […]
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The Jealousy Mind Flayer
Someone shared this with you – likely because they know you are struggling with jealousy in your journey of polyamory. They want you to know that they understand what it’s like to feel insecure. They know it’s hard to think about your partner with another person – even if it’s just spending time away with […]
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Polyamory Tool Belt – 4×4 Yes Test
Here is a simple 4×4 Yes Test. Four simple rules and four simple questions. You’re not done with the test until you can answer yes to the 4 questions. If you’re checking in with your partner(s) regularly, the whole thing should take less than 10 minutes. This test leverages the power of good communication and […]
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The Confusing World of Hierarchy
I’m going to be talking about hierarchy a lot in this article. It’s a tricky topic so before I start, let’s start with the definition: What is hierarchy? Hierarchy – a system or organization in which people or groups are ranked one above the other according to status or authority. Is this something that happens […]
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