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Giving Away Free Mistakes!
Since starting on my polyamorous journey I’ve made mistakes. I’ve hurt people. I’ve surely been viewed as toxic by some people. I struggle to always find the perfect balance and I still don’t get it right every time. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I’m human. I think that’s an important thing we need […]
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Polyamory Tool Belt – Managing A Jealousy Crisis
Welcome back to another segment of Polyamory Tool Belt. I’m going to be giving you some tips on things you can do during a jealousy crisis. Before I get too far into this I want to express the importance of reaching out to someone if you’re thinking about hurting yourself. Jealousy compounded with severe […]
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Rules Vs. Agreements – Part I
Welcome to Rules Vs Agreement Series Part I! I hope to hear from my friends and other polyam folks who have good examples for future parts to this series. Feel free to send them my way! Rules come up a lot in my posts. If you’ve read any of my posts that reference rules you […]
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3 Invasive Species in the Relationship Ecosystem
Do you remember in grade school when your science teacher told you to think of human cells like little cities? City walls, city streets, recycling plants and all that fun stuff. Ever since then I would make all kinds of comparisons to better organize and understand things. It doesn’t even surprise me a little bit […]
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Polyamory Tool Belt – 4×4 Yes Test
Here is a simple 4×4 Yes Test. Four simple rules and four simple questions. You’re not done with the test until you can answer yes to the 4 questions. If you’re checking in with your partner(s) regularly, the whole thing should take less than 10 minutes. This test leverages the power of good communication and […]
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The Confusing World of Hierarchy
I’m going to be talking about hierarchy a lot in this article. It’s a tricky topic so before I start, let’s start with the definition: What is hierarchy? Hierarchy – a system or organization in which people or groups are ranked one above the other according to status or authority. Is this something that happens […]
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The Polyamory Rule Book
I’ve spent countless hours working on this. When I started my journey I had always wished there was a rule book for polyamory. Monogamy seems to have pretty clearly defined rules, why can’t polyamory? Well here it is. Finally. A rule book for polyamory: Rule #1: Treat the people you care about with basic human […]
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You Want to Be Polyamorous? – Buckle Up!
Are you married or in a long-term committed relationship and want to explore polyamory? If so, here is a short guide for getting started. If not, enjoy this anyways. Be prepared for some hard truths, a little humor and a touch of loving encouragement. Before we begin: If you want to find a “third” to […]
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An Open Letter to Those Who Feel Attacked in Polyamory
I enjoy lurking on facebook polyamory pages and reading the discussions people have. I’ve been doing it since the start of my journey over 5 years ago. Having been doing it for so long I started to notice patterns. I would watch people who were new to polyamory and just looking for some advice be […]
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