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Deprogramming Monogamy
I’ve been thinking recently about how I’m 6 years deep into learning about polyamory and living it everyday, yet, I still find myself on monogamous thought tracks. Wwwwhhhhhyyyyy? I thought I was done with monogamy and had deprogrammed every part out of it out of my brain. Why is it still there? Deprogramming your brain […]
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I Need To Tell You Something…
Dear Person I Care About Very Much, This letter was sent to you because I need to tell you something that’s very scary to share. While these aren’t my words, this is still very much my truth. Please read this all the way through and reserve judgement until you fully understand what I’m trying to […]
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Today’s Polyamory Reminder
I know my blog went quiet for a few months. I didn’t want to take up space with my blog at a time when there are so many bigger things happening in our country. My thoughts on polyamory felt miniscule compared to all that was going on. I could sit here and tell you that […]
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An Open Letter To You Polyamorous Heathens
Dear Polyamorist, This letter is for all you polyamorous heathens out there. To everyone that lurks in the shadows and is damaging society and all the arbitrary constructs we were raised to believe. I’m going to tell you all the reasons why what you’re doing is bad and why you should stop. This isn’t just […]
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How Do I Know If I’m Hunting Unicorns?
Unicorn Hunting, in the most simplest terms, is the act of an established couple specifically looking for a bisexual person to join their existing relationship. It’s usually considered Unicorn Hunting when the existing couple hasn’t done the work to disentangle their current relationship enough to see themselves as unique individuals. It’s widely seen as […]
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Gatekeeping in Polyamory
Well… I did it. I reached that point in my polyam journey where it finally happened. I completely lost touch. I turned into that grumpy old man telling people to get off my lawn. However, in this scenario, the lawn was polyamory. Yup, I became one of those gatekeepers to polyamory. I’m really sad because […]
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5 Stages of Polyamory With The Office
This one is just for fun. Everyone’s journey is different but surely you can relate to one of these stages. Stage 1 – OH SNAP! This is a thing?!?!?!?! You just learned that this is a thing that lots of people do. You are beside yourself. You immediately start to envision a future where your […]
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Polyamory Tool Belt – Managing A Jealousy Crisis
Welcome back to another segment of Polyamory Tool Belt. I’m going to be giving you some tips on things you can do during a jealousy crisis. Before I get too far into this I want to express the importance of reaching out to someone if you’re thinking about hurting yourself. Jealousy compounded with severe […]
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Thanks Polyamory! It Has Been Fun!
I’ve been thinking… What if polyamory is just a phase for me? What if it was just a mechanism to manage my fear of commitment? A vessel for validation? Well, if you’re reading this and are thinking “I knew it!” I have to let you know that I’m not actually wondering those things. My brain […]
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Rules Vs. Agreements – Part I
Welcome to Rules Vs Agreement Series Part I! I hope to hear from my friends and other polyam folks who have good examples for future parts to this series. Feel free to send them my way! Rules come up a lot in my posts. If you’ve read any of my posts that reference rules you […]
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